Monday, October 31, 2011

FRANKENHOUSE!

"It's ALIVE!" but trying to make sense of all the patched together pieces and parts is certainly a haunting proposition. In the past almost eight decades this house has had many lives as we discovered as we started digging in deeper to the mystery of the 58th Street house.

Here you can see the door frame,
redwood shingle and "brick" layers.
Judging a book by three different covers?
When replacing the back door to the home we were shocked to see that the house had not started out with a plaster exterior. Directly underneath the plaster was a layer of what looks like thin brick but under further investigation was fake brick made of some sort of tar-paper substance. Yet it didn't stop there! Underneath the brick-ish substance where painstakingly layered redwood strips in nearly perfect condition! We are hoping to start going from neighbor to neighbor in the hopes of finding pictures of the house in it's many disguises over the years.


Donny completes his project!
It all started with a door.
The very first glimpse of our new house came in the form of a crisp, white back door. Our friend Donny took over the whole project and while Chris and I spent hour after hour pulling crud from the house and tearing down disintegrating particle board shelving. It was a tough project because the door and frame where odd sizes and crooked. A whole new frame would have to be installed. When Donny called us to his his efforts we were elated. Sure, a door might not seem like a big deal but it had a lot of emotionally charged symbolism for us. With help, we could do this and we were taking our first steps on our adventure but the door and tools needed sucked away the last of our yard sale funds.

Now we are not sure what can even be done with no money for materials so Chris and I just focused on what we could do, continue the massive clean-out project. By the end of the day on Sunday the huge 40 yard waste container in the driveway was completely filled and we realized to out horror that we would need another container but had no money to get one. Can't think about that now, we will figure something out I know.

Paul and Chris talk in the shade.
A visit from a new friend.
Saturday we were given a welcome respite from our labors (and worries) when Paul Romo from Inside East Sacramento stopped by. He was dispatched by the editor to learn about our story and what we hoped to accomplish. Paul was incredibly brave as we gave him the tour, venturing places even I was hesitant to go. He took pages and pages of notes and his questions were thought-provoking, helping us to really solidify in our minds what our vision is, as well as get some emotions going for me. It was kind of embarrassing for me to stand there covered in filth with my hair looking like a rat's nest fighting tears in the backyard full of weeds and junk but I think Paul did a lot for us that day. I was still scared by what we were taking on but I now understood that this project was so much more important to me than I had even guessed.

Stuff Flo was dealing with!
A visit from an old friend.
One of my closest friends (and Donny's wife) came by on Sunday despite her incredibly packed schedule. She came bearing gifts that were so welcome but the greatest gist of all was her positive energy. While I sat down to eat lunch she scooped up a pair of gloves and dove into the basement bringing up arm loads of moldy books and files and heaven knows what else. She was smiling and positive and happy and my greatest blessing on Sunday when I was so exhausted and fighting back a migraine. To top it all off her farewell was a neck and shoulder massage (did I mention she is the BEST massage therapist in East Sacramento?) which chased away my migraine and enabled me to work several more hours that day. (Note to self: try to get a picture of Flo for the blog.)

WEEK FOUR HEROES

My daughter Cassie for watching her fussy little brother all weekend. Your love for Jax makes my heart fill to overflowing and I am so proud of you!

Our good friends Leah and Becky for opening their home to Cassie and Jax all day Saturday and all day Sunday so they could be safe and then refusing any money for their trouble!

Yet again, Donny and Flo! You guys are amazing and such a blessing!

The nice gentleman who carted away a lot of old metal and ruined appliances so we wouldn't have to pay to trash them.

The equally nice gentleman who carted away our giant truckload of cardboard so we could save room in our trash container as well as saving the time and gas going to a recycling center.

Paul Romo for the insight into our quest.

My never faltering husband.


Our bright and shiny new door! The first milestone on our adventure thanks to Donny!
LEARN MORE ABOUT WHAT WE ARE DOING AND SEE MORE PICTURES OF THE PROJECT AT OUR WEBSITE: WWW.GROVETRIBE.COM

Tuesday, October 25, 2011

WEEK THREE UPDATE

FULL STEAM AHEAD (AND I'M RUNNING OUT OF IT!)
Everything seems to be coming at us at once but I guess it has to; the clock is ticking and time (as well as good weather) is likely to run out all too soon. The frantic pace is taking it's toll on all of us. Even with help there is so much to do and I know that the folks who have been helping us so far have to return to their lives. We are hoping that we can find new sources of help from our community so we started passing out fliers asking folks if they wanted to participate in a modern day "barn raising". I am crossing fingers and toes in the hopes that we will get some responses soon. I am already so bone-tired (my autoimmune disease makes this so much harder, I miss the strength and stamina I had in younger years before CFS raised it's ugly head!). My husband has been the juggernaut of the project and although he seems tireless and unstoppable right now, I worry about him over the long haul of this adventure.

Chris helps a neighbor change a tire.
GIVING BACK
Our next door neighbors (on 58th Street) continue to show a spirit of community by inviting Jax over to play and feeding him lunch (that he actually ate!). My husband was able to return the favor by using his considerable cycling skills to replace a tire tube for them during one of his breaks. (The neighbor only has real use of one of his hands and it takes two strong hands to change the tire out.) I helped watch a neighbor's daughter so she could run errands while I ran the yard sale. It was nice to have a chance to give back and we welcome folks to feel like they can ask us for help too!

WHAT'S NEXT
Yard saling is finished and we have started shifting items to a storage facility for my parents. The living level is emptied but the basement is still full of stuff. We will finish emptying the property and hope to begin taking out kitchen cabinets and other demolition duties. The carpets have already been removed and we are chipping away at the linoleum tiles that have bonded to the wood floors after 27 or so years. It is slow, tough going and we are wondering if we should get a heat gun to try and make it easier? Buying a tool is a big deal to us so we debate everything we have to do hoping that in our ignorance we don't end up spending and wasting our preciously sparse funds.

EXPANDED GALLERY
I have expanded our picture gallery this morning and will now be tracking progress in photos week by week as well as on this blog. I found a couple of boxes of old photographs. The water damage has glued most of them together into thick blobs of useless pictures but I have been uncovering a few that I hope to scan and add to our gallery archive area. If you have pictures of the 'hood and would like to share them (as well as any of your stories) please contact us through our website!

WEEK THREE HEROES
Justin Fatzer of Fatzer Appraisal Group
Justin gave us an amazing deal and came out right away to appraise the property for us (one of the needed steps towards us somehow buying the property from my parents). I just got the 25 PAGE appraisal pdf last night and I was amazed at how much work Justin put into how fast he got it to us (he came out Friday morning and had the pdf to us Monday night. I did not expect to get great service along with such a great deal, thank you Justin!

Sabra and Darrell of Waste Removal & Recycling
Sabra did everything she could to give us a great deal and made sure that we could have the container as long as we needed it. (With only being able to work weekends when my husband is off of work we knew we couldn't get everything stripped out in a 7 day time frame). Darrell I am amazed at your driving and placement skills. We gave you a very tough and narrow place to put the container and you fit it in PERFECTLY. Thank you! This is another local company that came through for us and way beat the price and service of the big guys.

Folks who signed our volunteer sheet. As soon as I can find it in all the chaos I will be trying to contact you folks!


Jax gets a hot and nutritious lunch from a neighbor.
 The neighbors next door. Still our shining light of "Welcome back to the neighborhood."
Donny and Flo. For throwing your strength and courage into the project on Sunday and your continued moral support.When I have crisis of faith it is you two that help buoy our spirits and give us hope.

Flying Eagle and Patrick. For doing all the nasty work with my husband because my health challenges keep me from being in there with him. You two have truly been a blessing.

My Husband, Chris. Always my hero but I have found a whole new level of respect for you. From 4 am in the morning until 10 pm at night (and even after when Jax wakes up in the middle of the night and I am too exhausted to get him) you have put even the Energizer Bunny to shame. Week after week you are working hard with little to no rest, doing all the thankless, dirty, smelly, strength-sapping tasks. Yet another facet of you has been revealed to me and I am in awe.

The Kids. For putting up will all of this craziness. It may not seem like it now but all of this is for you.

My parents. For taking a chance on us after being burned by others in the past. For giving us help when you are already in need of it yourselves. We love you and hope that we will make you proud.

LEARN MORE ABOUT WHAT WE ARE DOING AND SEE MORE PICTURES OF THE PROJECT AT OUR WEBSITE: WWW.GROVETRIBE.COM

Saturday, October 22, 2011

Digging In

Chris (background) and one of my Tai Chi students and friends, Flying Eagle, work on stripping out the carpet.
The past few days have been busy on 58th Street...

What's It Worth?

Chris and Justin talk over the house.
One of the first things my parents requested was an appraisal of the worth of the property before work really begins. Their reasoning was solid and understandable but it was an expense that we would have to pay that I really wish could have gone to the house instead. I spent hours and hours looking up and calling for quotes to find the cheapest rates I could. I meant to call the cheapest person first but for some reason that little voice in my head kept telling me to call a local company whose office was located in East Sacramento. I called and talked to Justin Fatzer of Fatzer Appraisal Group and gave him my bizarre explanation of how I knew he wasn't the least expensive quote out there and yet I felt the strongest instinct to call. We talked about "the 'hood" and it seemed like as soon as I mentioned how I used to hang out at Shakey's the ice was truly broken. Justin was willing to give us a great deal, well below the lowest quote I had found and he showed up at the house the very next morning to work us in before getting his day started. He gave us all kinds of advice and offered us referrals of trusted sources and his assurance that he would write up the appraisal and get it to us in less than a week. Justin is awesome to work with, he was very friendly and knows East Sac and surrounding areas so well he seemed to know more about our house than I did. We are not sure about the worth of the house yet but Justin sure turned out to be a gem! Thanks Justin!

...Would Smell As Sweet
Dealing with garbage is never number one on my list of things to do but with all the damage and things that needed to be removed I knew we needed a BIG garbage container. With advice from our friend Donny I hunted high and low and found another great locally owned company that was willing to work a great deal for us. I made my calls on Thursday and got the container delivered on Friday morning so we could get to work right away. They didn't start off as the cheapest but they (meaning Sabra) worked with our situation and needs and we ended up getting a great deal with awesome turn-around time and a very knowledgeable delivery person, Darrell. (Turns our Darrell went to the same schools I did -albeit a coupe of years before me- so we talked about the "hood for a while before he took his leave.) We wanted to say a big thank you to our friends Sabra and Darrell at Waste Removal & Recycling for their care, friendliness and professionalism.

Yard Sale of Doom


Despite my best efforts someone caught me on film.
So while Chris works with Flying Eagle and his friend Patrick to excavate the house and basement I am yet again set the task of trying to find homes for a lot of the stuff left behind while trying to raise funds for the rebuild. Let me be blunt, yard sales are great fun and I love them; as a customer. When I am the person running same it becomes akin to a slow, tortuous death. Add a grumpy-at-being-reigned-in-toddler to the mix plus two restless elementary-aged boys and it gets exhausting quickly. On the plus side, I love socializing with folks and got to meet so many nice folks. When they found out about our story we got several volunteers who promised to help with various things. At the suggestion of one person I just met, I started a sign-up sheet for helpers. It has been a great way to meet new friends and I decided that when we have our house-warming we are going to make it a big community event and invited everyone who helped (great or small) to the festivities (I wonder if there is a fire-dancer troupe willing to donate a performance for the house unveiling. Hah! Wouldn't that show up those "Move that bus!" folks!) Well, tomorrow is my last yard saling day. I hope lots of folks come out to say hi and maybe buy a thing or two.


Chris, Jax and the neighbor girls hanging out.
 Folsom or East Sac: Neighbors Still Mean AWESOME!
Losing my Folsom neighbors suck but our new friends next door have been awesome. Great to talk to, helpful, they buy stuff at our yard sale and even feed our toddler lunch (which he actually ate!) as well as lend us the toddler entertaining skills of their two lovely daughters. Thanks guys!

Well, it is late and I am running on four hours of sleep and we have another early day of yard saling tomorrow. I am going to see if my toddler will allow me a few winks so I can survive tomorrow!

LEARN MORE ABOUT WHAT WE ARE DOING AND SEE MORE PICTURES OF THE PROJECT AT OUR WEBSITE: WWW.GROVETRIBE.COM

Friday, October 21, 2011

Frugal Family Tip #1

My youngest daughter wanted to help make our home blog "better" so she had a suggestion that I thought was pretty cool: Share some of our money saving tips as we go through this process. She explained that we could help other family who are trying to make their budgets work for them. So here we go with our first tip:

Tip #1 Clotheslines drying

Above me you can see towels suspended from our
mega-clothesline. I will try to find better pics to add. 
On 58th street we had the grandaddy of a clothesline. It was from the back of the porch to a pole way out at the back of the property and was on a wheeled pulley system. You could easily dry three large loads of clothes on that thing but shuttling everything in and out could be a real test of stregnth if you were drying a lot of towels.

I never had anything like a real "clothesline" once I moved out of that house (and the line has since been retired due to age and decay) but I still try to dry a lot of my clothes without depending entirely on a dryer. Our solution is a foldable drying rack. (They even had a delux version of these for sale at Costco not too long ago!)

The drying rack doesn't have nearly as much "real estate" as the old clothesline but it has enough room to dry heavy towels and jeans to almost dry before I put them in the dryer to fluff for a few minutes. Instead of using up energy (and heating the house up in the summer) with full drying cycle for heavy items I throw them on the drying rack. (I admit that for many small items I do go ahead and use the dryer, with a toddler running around, time can be crunched and sometimes you can err on the side of frugality COSTING you time and money if you don't balance it with the needs and priorities of your family.)

It may sound like a pain but if you do a load of heavy jeans before you leave for work just set the drying rack up in your garage, back porch or (during winter) in your bathtub. In our hot summer they will suck the moisture right out (to soften very dry jeans I will throw in wet garments from the next load into the dryer and the jeans help them dry faster and they get softened at the same time. In winter they may not dry that much but anything helps with such high energy costs hitting us all.
This is the kind of drying rack I currently use.

LEARN MORE ABOUT WHAT WE ARE DOING AND SEE MORE PICTURES OF THE PROJECT AT OUR WEBSITE: WWW.GROVETRIBE.COM


Thursday, October 20, 2011

Telling the (Folsom) Neighbors

Here I am setting up our 4th of July Neighborhood Olympics party in our Folsom court. (July 4, 2011)
Telling my Folsom neighbors about our relocation to East Sacramento is something I have been avoiding; partially because there are still so many variables in this project and partially because it was just so emotionally hard to do it.

It is easy to ride high on the happy reactions of my old East Sac neighbors (who have been so excited to see my family come back to 58th Street) but yesterday I told my favorite neighbor in Folsom about the move and it was like a punch in the gut. We had planned on staying where we were for at least two more years, a little over a month ago I had organized a neighborhood watch for our court and I had hosted a big Fourth of July party complete with our own neighborhood olympics. I even planted tulip bulbs! (You know when a woman plants tulips she intends on hanging around a while.) So when I brought myself to tell my first neighbor what was going on she was shocked.

The conversation actually started when she texted me in concern. I had left our little pushmower on our lawn with only one strip of grass mowed. (I had sustained injuries to my right arm that were being greatly aggravated by all the work on the house. I literally was in so much pain that I stopped mowing and went directly inside to ice down my hurt arm.) I try my hardest to keep our front yard looking very nice with a trimmed, green lawn and lots of flowers. So when she saw grass growing and the abandoned mower she was worried. I texted her back what was up with the mower and decided to talk to her as soon as possible so she would know what was going on with the move.

Later that morning it was cold and grey and I was barefoot when I said goodbye to my youngest daughter as she went off to school and we brought the mower in. My neighbor was dropping her son off at the daycare across the street while I was out. To be honest I had been avoiding the neighbors. Every time I thought about leaving the court and all these people that I had just started feeling close to it made my nose and eyes sting with tears. This court really was so perfect for a family and we loved being here. I almost cried a couple of times when I told her the story of what happened.

She had already known how we were barely making ends meet. My husband had to stop racing (his lifelong dream) and I was making due with clothes too big for me (I put a stop to my weight loss -I've lost about 50 pounds in the last year- because I really couldn't afford a new wardrobe) and we were constantly selling off our possessions and making do with less and less. When a family emergency dictated that my husband make an emergency flight back East the enormous costs involved used up any breathing room we had. Even without the unexpected rent increase it was a struggle to afford where we were living, it just wasn't sustainable with our current finances.

I explained to her how bittersweet this life-change was.  She was understanding and supportive -aspects I always felt were so wonderful about her- and it was all I could do not to tear up. We would be returning to the place that I had always considered "home" (East Sac) but we were giving up all the wonderful parts of living in Folsom. It really is a great place for a family to be.


Kids participating in one of the competitions while some of the grown-ups watch and shout encouragement. (July 4, 2011)

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Tuesday, October 18, 2011

Photo Gallery Now Up!

http://www.grovetribe.com/58thstGallery.html

We now have a gallery up to share pictures of the progress of  the current project as well as photographs we are finding and scanning to give you an idea of what it was like on the property and nearby neighborhood through-out the years. Many of the pictures we have found have severe water and fire damage (there was a house fire on the property in 1984) so images may be in poor condition. We will be asking neighbors if they have pictures (and history) to contribute as well to help fill in the gaps.

LEARN MORE ABOUT WHAT WE ARE DOING AND SEE MORE PICTURES OF THE PROJECT AT OUR WEBSITE: WWW.GROVETRIBE.COM

Monday, October 17, 2011

WEEK TWO: A Couple More Pics

Believe it or not, this isn't the bad section of the roof. (Will try to get pics of those in the next few days.)
Single pane windows. Some broken and cracked. None of the ancient sash pulley systems work any longer.
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SECOND WEEK: Yard Sale to be continued...

Well, after three gruelling days of yard sale and house clean out we have discovered that we still haven't uncovered everything and brought it out of the house. The problem is that with the water-damage it was hard to find saleable items and by the time we sifted through a lot of it, the weekend was over. We fell short of our fund-raising goal by half and now realize it is unlikely to get as much as we had hoped but we do have tons of books, clothes, records and little things that we hope to sell on Saturday of next weekend to get us a bit closer.

STILL IN SHOCK
I know my dad had started buying books a lot but I had no clue of the sheer massive numbers, they were the most popular items at the yard sale and even after selling half of what we found there are still, quite literally, THOUSANDS left. If I had the capital I would have kept the books and opened a used book store with a full stock!

A lot of items were ruined by the water-damage caused by a vandal. Our hopes of raising enough money to jump start our work was faltering quickly. At this point we figured we will walk away with enough to rent a trash container but not much more.

HURTING BAD
After working hard-core on the house Thursday night, all day Friday, all day Saturday and Sunday into dark. We are exhausted! Luckily the eleven year old got to spend one of the nights at a friends house but for Chris, Jax and I this weekend meant working on the house all day and sleeping on a neighbors floor each night. (Thank goodness she had really nice, cushioned carpet but it is still hard on a body no longer youthful.) Between a couple of recent injuries and the pain of CFS this weekend has left me painfully exhausted. If it weren't for the brief break to hang out with some good friends and enjoy some drumming I think I would have cracked on Sunday. My husband kept going lifting incredibly heavy items, often without help, hour after hour, day after day without complaint.

CONDITION OF THE HOUSE
Dead HVAC
During the weekend we had visits from friends who had contracting experience take a look at the condition of the house in greater depth. Prognosis: Great property, great redwood "bones" to the house but a massive amount of work that needed to be done.

Our friends Roger and Shannon K. arranged for a HVAC guy (Alex) to come out and take a look at the systems. The HVAC was not only dead but so out-dated it was a waste of money to try and rebuild it. Alex promised to write up estimates on several options of what we could do with the place but it sounds like this winter will be all about the space heater.

The water damage destroyed many items in the house and the carpet and basement insulating as well as most of the items stored in the basement would have to be thrown out. Very little was salvageable but we may be able to put work into the wood floors and make that part livable.

The plumbing and wiring was old and weird. Full of mysteries and dead-ends. It was usable for the moment but must be replaced soon. Plumbing doesn't bother me too much but having to work on electrical freaks me out. Not something I feel amateurs should mess with but on our budget I guess I had better learn quick and well.

The laundry room is a complete rotted out mess and should be taken out right away. Probably means replacing the stairs as well. As this is where our water-heater is stored it makes it even more of a challenge. I got that familiar wave of "Should we be even attempting this?" but all the neighbors and our friends all agree that it is worth the risk. I hope they are right.

WEEK TWO HEROES
So many people helped us get through this weekend:

* My husband. I am blessed to be married to a man that I can call my hero!

* Our neighbors for letting us crash at their place.

* The family next door (that we just met last week) for offering to let us use their trash and green waste containers; letting use use their bathroom while we tried to fix the broken toilet, allowing my toddler son to play with their toddler daughter and their older daughter and their kinds words of support. They are genuinely kind people and only reconfirms our decision to move back.


Jax drumming his heart out!

* My good friends who hosted a drum circle and showered us with love and healing energy and fun.

* My Tai Chi student for his upbeat attitude, his incredible energy, strong back and arms and his genuine kindness to me and my family.

* The folks who visited us Sunday morning and gave us the idea to start a volunteer sign up sheet and then signed themselves up to help when and where and how they could. Stranger who care! They DO exist!

* The gang at Corti's on Sunday night. They had just locked the doors when we drove up and when they saw our dejected faces, re-opened so we could grab a much needed dinner in the form of the most famous Corti Bros. sandwiches!

* I am sure my exhausted mind has forgotten someone so THANK YOU ALL!

So that is all I have time for right now. I did find a lot of old pictures of the house I can scan and will post soon. I am thinking of creating a gallery for the main website. We will let you know when it is up!

An unusual sight right in the middle of the yard sale on Sunday morning.
A pair of mating Mantii (Is that how you make it plural?).
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Wednesday, October 12, 2011

Almost Week Two: YARD SALE!

This Friday will begin our second week on our adventure and the name of the game is getting everything out of the house and raise some money so we can start doing some actual work. So come by and shop our HUGE yard sale this weekend and pick up some cool stuff at bargain basement (heh... literally) prices. Look for the big, glow-in-the-dark signs!

YARD SALE
1115 58th Street
Sacramento, CA 95819
Friday and Saturday (Oct 14 & 15)
8 am until ??

LEARN MORE ABOUT WHAT WE ARE DOING AND SEE MORE PICTURES OF THE PROJECT AT OUR WEBSITE: WWW.GROVETRIBE.COM

Tuesday, October 11, 2011

Day Two, Sunday: Sacrifice

I just couldn't figure out how to tackle all of this.
Have you ever had someone tell you that "everything will look better in the morning"? Well, it didn't happen that way for me. The next morning I was hit with a new wave of apprehension. We had no idea if the house was solid enough to be worth saving. I had visions of it needing to be bulldozed and neither my parents nor my family had any money to build a house from the ground-up. I was slow to get moving and it was only made worse but what I would have to do that morning before we even got there.

I would have to talk to my Tai Chi class (I taught a free class in the park every Sunday) and tell them that I would be unable to teach for at least a few months and that if I continued teaching it would have to be moved to East Sacramento.  While my husband packed up kids and supplies into the car I rode a bike down to the park. I led the class in warm ups and forms but I cut the session short to give my news. The looks on their faces made my heart sink but I knew I was doing the right thing. One of my favorite students was not there that morning but when I jokingly asked if they knew of any contractors that would work for free one of my old Tai Chi buddies who helped teach classes told me that the same student that was not there was in fact a contractor. I felt a jolt of surprise and made a mental note to call that student later that day. As I was preparing to leave my buddy offered to keep the Tai Chi classes going in my stead. It was a bittersweet moment, to know that I had such friends and to know that I would be leaving them. I owed it to my family to try to make the 58th Street house work but it sure was not an easy sacrifice to make.

My husband clearing brush.
There would be so many more sacrifices on this adventure: my husband's bicycle racing would be on hold after he had worked so hard for the past two years and was in top form. We would be living in a much smaller home with a ton of work to do, probably for years to come. Instead of being walking distance to work he would now have to commute. Losing that precious time each day that we had been so happy to gain when we had originally moved to Folsom. We would be leaving neighbors that we had just gotten close to (I had just started up a neighborhood watch a little over a month ago when I thought we were going to be there for at least a couple more years!) and a beautiful, quiet court. And another move! Egads, I had so convinced myself we would be staying where we were for years (I had planted tulip bulbs in the front yard!). Yet I knew that despite all we would go through, we would survive as we always have, together as a family.


We made our way back down to Sacramento and really assessed our situation. No less overwhelming that it had been yesterday morning. Cleaning up the front had barely made a dent in the massive project that lay before us. We set to work clearing up the back of the property and as I worked I was finding that I had no stamina. My CFS was getting the better of me and I had used up most of my "juice" yesterday. I moved frustratingly slow and again began to wonder if this would all be worth it. What if we did all this work on the yard but the house wasn't viable? When I said this to my husband he told me at the very least we were helping my parents out by cleaning up the property. And so we resumed work.

I sent a text to my contractor-student and asked him if he would be willing to come out to take a look at the property. He was out of work, not even able to afford the gas to get out to East Sac, so we picked him up at the light rail station and offered him our last $20 in return for taking a look at the house and getting his opinion on whether or not it could be done, especially with our financial situation.

Laundry room falling apart.
As he looked through the house I could tell he knew a thing or two as he made observations that I knew were dead-on. He checked the supports and the weather and vandalism damage and said that a lot of stuff would have to be torn out but that the bones of the house itself were strong and well-built. He was very positive and hopeful and promised to help us as much as he could. He offered not to charge us but he was in an even tougher financial situation and a transplant from another state. Even though we didn’t have much money he needed something for his time and help. It brought into sharper focus that even if we could get a lot of materials donated there were still so many costs.

I ended up talking to a very good friend of mine and she and a friend of hers offered me great advice and suggestions and my friend's husband, also a contractor, offered to take a look as well and offered his help. Although I felt like I could trust my student I had only known him for a few months and he was new to California. I had known my friend's husband for many, many, many years and I trusted him as much as I would my husband so I felt a whole new level of relief knowing that we had the knowledge of not one but two contractors to help us navigate this adventure. Materials and other costs loomed large over our heads but at least we know knew that we wouldn't have costly mistakes from our own ignorance sucking away at precious time, funds and resources.

With my visit to my friend's home we came away with revelations that we had help and encouragement to blog about what we are doing and try to find help from others (kind of like an old fashioned barn-raising!) We again felt an uplift of hopefulness. Our hope was tempered by the enormity of the next task. Finding a way to get everything out of a house stuffed to the gills (ever seen that show Clean House?) with things my parents had gathered over the past 30+ years.

Junk everywhere.
We knew what we would have to ask of my parents and I felt the prospects were grim. Asking them to allow us to get rid of so much of their belongings was hard, particularly because they both came from very impoverished backgrounds. They kept everything.  But the reality was it was just the two of them now and they already had a two bedroom apartment stuffed to the gills. Everything still at the house had been abandoned for years and was not likely to be reclaimed. The answer was simple yet difficult to propose, a massive yard sale.

We hoped that my parents would allow us to use some of the proceeds from the yard sale towards buying building materials and tools, at the very least it would be a quick way to clear the stuff out of our way so we could start gutting the place. My parents were also in financial distress; they had already spent a lot of money helping us try to pay off our legal bills, helping us when we needed it without ever asking for a dime of it back. If there was any way that we could give them a portion of the money to help them pay off some of their debt, I felt that I owed them that. We knew we needed to schedule a yard sale right away but talking to my parents about what we hoped to do was insanely stressful. We called them and asked to visit them to give them an update and talk about next steps.

It was a tense meeting at first and I could tell that it was such a hard thing for my parents. I would not have blamed them one bit if they had told my husband and I to take a flying leap. I have no illusions that my parents are perfect but I was so thankful and proud of how they put their feelings and misgivings behind what would be best for the family. They were giving us so much, sacrificing for us yet again, making it possible for my family to move to the next step towards owning a home and finally finding somewhere to set down roots.

And so we begin planning the next phase: YARD SALE!
17 years ago, my oldest (now 19!) and I jumping in a leaf pile at the 58th Street house while my parents (behind us, sitting on the steps) watched and laughed.
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Monday, October 10, 2011

Day One, Saturday: Do I even want to be here?

The back yard that would hold parties (my parents would throw "Build Your Own Sundaes on Saturday" parties for friends and family) is now unrecognizable. The sense of loss I felt when I saw the property was staggering.
When my husband relayed to me what my father had said about the state of the property I admit that I wrote the idea off as impossible and scanned Craigslist multiple times a day looking for a small place with a landlord that might be willing to go by references instead of credit. My husband's response to my doubts was to tell me that our schedule for the weekend was to spend it at the 58th Street property. Despite all of my misgivings there were two factors on my husband's side: 1.) I trusted him completely and if he felt something was worth doing I would gladly throw everything I had into the project and 2.) I have for years missed East Sacramento. Talk to some of the people living on 58th street and they will tell you, there is something about the area that has a kind of magic. It isn't fancy, the houses aren't McMansions, but there is an energy there that once it welcomes you, you just can't forget it. It always seems to call me back, a sirens song that I can ignore for only so long.

With our last $100 bucks and our first credit card we had just got in the mail (complete with a very modest limit and outrageous interest rates) in our pockets we packed up the kids and as many tools as we could shove in to our stripped down mini-van and drove down to East Sac. It was all so hurried and last minute. We had no idea what we were going to do with the kids or how we were going to tackle the property itself. Luckily, not many folks move away from a place like 58th Street and so many of my neighbors were still there. We knocked on a neighbor's door, the same one who mowed  and watered the front lawn for my parents, and asked if we could drop the kids off there. For $20 we got a full day's worth of babysitting for three kids! With the kids settled with toys and snacks and friends my husband and I went to face what may well be our greatest challenge.

Driving up to the property I felt a powerful wave of fear that was so unexpected it took my breath away. In reality the front didn't look that bad, a bit unkempt but not bad and nothing that should have triggered that strong of a response. I wanted to leave and forget the whole thing but one of the things that I have learned in the past few years is to make decisions based on love, not fear. It was fear that was telling me to run but it was my love for my husband, my trust for him that first made me stay. After getting out of the car I was struck by how wild the energy of the place felt and I realised that this property needed my love too. Through the caring of this property I knew I would be caring for my parents, relieving from them a burden they could not carry. My love for the wonderful people on 58th Street who deserved to live by a house that was well-cared for and in good repair. It was love for my children and the wonderful life they could have in the magical garden where I grew up that finally cemented my resolve to build a life for them, a home where they could stay and feel safe and happy. As the weekend wore on I would feel the fear and hopelessness of our situation again and again but I reminded myself that this was a decision based on love and it was worth the risk.

However, I had limits to what I could handle physically and emotionally and so restricted myself to caring for the front of the property while I allowed the continuing inner debate to run it's course in my mind. My battle of doubts raged; was it even possible to salvage a neglected property with no funds and ridiculously little credit? Would the water damage from the flooding have harmed the integrity of the structure? What about mold? Would the 30 year old roof hang on long enough for us to figure out how to finance it's repair or even (heaven help us!) if we could re-do it ourselves? And on and on. Of one thing I was certain, if it wasn't safe, my children would not set foot in it. Would all this planning and soul-searching and hard work be just in vain if the house was too old and too neglected to be saved? Like my father, I threw myself into working with the grass and the dirt and the trees and allowed the hard work and the sounds of the neighborhood to lull me into a quieter mental state. Today I would let the question of the house go and spent the many hours between my work and the visits of neighbors.

Stella was already in her 80's when we moved in
but she was a friend to me for many years.
It was the visits from neighbors that brought a smile to my face as I worked. When someone you haven't seen in years comes rushing up with joy shining bright on their face and say, "Are you coming back?" it does something funny to your insides. It wells up in your throat and presses on your cheeks until your mouth splits open in a toothy grin and you find yourself speaking excitedly of your hopes to return. You get all the news of the neighborhood in rushes. Who has died, who has married, who has moved in and who is still there. It repeated many times that day as I worked and I almost felt like crying. I always had good relations with neighbors wherever I lived but nothing could compare to the warm arms of the old neighborhood welcoming me and my family back.

By the end of the day I was tired, hungry and aching terribly and yet I was more joyful and sure of my path than I had been in a long time.

Neighbor brings a pile of snow down from the mountains for the neighborhood kids to play in. (late 1990's)
Tomorrow: Day Two, Sunday: How can we even do this? (with lots more pictures)

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Sunday, October 9, 2011

Bad News Jump Starts A New Adventure

I should have known something was up when our landlady delayed and delayed getting a new lease to us. We had spent a year in our wonderful Folsom neighborhood and we liked (and seemed to be well-liked by) our neighbors, we took great care of the house and had even made improvements on our own dime. All was status quo until we finally pressed our landlady to send us the new lease but by now my "spider senses" were tingling: I knew something was up and I suspected that it was an increase in rent. I may have sensed it coming but when it did it still hurt.*

With our long, winding trail of money woes, we were already struggling to make ends meet on the current rent. We have dealt with huge legal fees from both both our divorces; with the horrifying news that the escrow company ran off with our money from the sale of the last house and my health problems that rendered me unable to work (with state disability exhausted and Social Security refusing to pay out unless I shelled out big bucks to yet another lawyer). We now relied solely on my husband's income.

We went from living comfortable lives to gasping for air, constantly selling off belongings and downsizing to make my husband's income work for us (meaning him, me, his two sons, my two daughters and our toddler). Needless to say we ended up in bankruptcy which did help take some of the pressure off but still could not make everything work out financially. Not having credit in our society is a blessing (no credit cards to run up) and a curse (who will rent you a house big enough for a family our size when we can't even get a credit card?). When our landlady said she would go by references (which luckily glowed) from previous landlords instead of a credit check (we told her up front about the bankruptcy) we were relieved to say the least. Yet now, we find that we have to move again! With the inability to spare enough money for a savings we are at a loss to find a place that will take a family with no credit and no money saved for security deposit. Where could we go? The only answer we had was frightening, daunting, intriguing and exciting all at once. The answer was on 58th Street.

58th St. house when I lived in it the second time (late 90's early 2000's)
Can You Go Home Again?
When I was seven years old, my family moved to an old farm house (by old I mean it is now almost 80 years old!) on 58th Street in East Sacramento. With usable living space under 1,000 sq. ft. the small two bed, one bath held my older sister, my parents and myself but while the walls may have been a bit cramped the property itself was a lush, palatial garden of wonder and somehow we made it work. Sure the basement flooded but we could store a lot of items off the ground and we spent most of our time outside anyway. My father was a self-proclaimed "hillbilly" who was used to living in a tiny shed as a boy and digging his own sewer trenches, growing his own vegetables and even baked cakes in a wood fired oven before he went off to "luxurious" Navy life. My father was the one that set the tone of family life and he centered it in the garden of our 58th Street home.

My father holding blackberries in our garden.
 I have memories of curing olives from the olive tree in our bathtub (our only bathtub), of making blackberry jam from the brambles lining the back of our property and eating carrots and fresh young red onions straight from the dirt after they were rinsed off with a garden hose. In the summers I would actually nap amongst the watermelon vines (to this day I wonder that I never used to be bothered by the prickly hairs on the leaves) and pick plums and figs from the many fruit trees.

My first friends on the block were an older couple that I named "The Perfect Couple" because they were always so kind and they, like their garden, were always sharply groomed and perfectly maintained. It was an old Italian neighborhood and so there weren't children for me to play with so I grew up playing in the garden, exploring CSUS and the American River Bike Trail or visiting the neighbors who would give me candy bars or fresh lemons from their trees so I could bake lemon meringue pies (one for me, one for them). Little did I know what a magical place East Sacramento was while I lived there.

I grew up, became a young adult and flew from the nest. It was many years later that I returned to the house with a young family of my own, as so many of us do now, in need of help making ends meet. I thought it was the perfect solution, my father had retired from his 30 year career at SMUD and was no longer able to take care of an aging house and a massive yard with his bad back and knees. My family needed a home where children could grow up happy and where rent would be cheap. My parents moved to an apartment in downtown Sacramento and my own family set up house on 58th Street. Things should have been perfect but, as is so often in life, they weren't. After the divorce, I began dating and fell in love with a wonderful man that lived in Roseville. At the time, it made sense to move in with him as our relationship progressed. My parents returned to the house on 58th Street and I again moved away.

As I personally found more happiness and love I have ever known, I found that life balanced the scale by visiting upon my husband and me those drawn out custody battles, theft and illness. I never knew I could feel so rich and so poor at the same time.  It was at this time that my mother fell catastrophically ill and was rushed to the emergency room. Her entire body went septic and shut down; she lay in a coma in the ICU for weeks while I visited whenever I could massaging her and talking to her until she finally awoke. It took a  long time but she did come back to us but very changed by her near-death. She was very weak and spent most of her time in bed or in a wheelchair, barely able to walk a few steps. She tried to return to the 58th Street house but the many steep stairs up to the front door were obviously too much for her. I had re-occurring nightmares of her falling down those old stairs and could not bear the thought of losing her so soon after getting her back. I also worried about my father caring for her and the house on his own. We lived far enough away and with me unable to work and drive any kind of real distances, five kids and split custody schedules it was pretty near impossible to get down to help them much.

At this time we found a need to move and with our bankruptcy fresh we could not find a place on our own, it seemed as if the perfect solution was to join households. I found a home in Fair Oaks that had only two shallow steps up into the house and we moved into the larger house with my parents while my mother tried to recover. On paper it seemed like a good idea but my parents valued their privacy and living in a house with 4 kids and a little one on the way proved to be too much. They found a little apartment not too far from us and we were able to find the perfect house just a few blocks from my husband's work in Folsom.

In the meantime, my father was so busy trying to care for my mother on his own while we were busy trying to care for our family that the property on 58th Street fell into disrepair and was broken into and vandalized. One of the worst incidents was when someone had stopped up all the sinks, the bathtub and the toilet and left all of the faucets running, completely flooding the house. My father, for his own complicated reasons that I may not entirely agree with, never made police reports of the incidents and seemed to emotionally divorce himself from the property. The house and yard became a ruined storage area for hoarded belongings with the only care being a neighborhood teen being paid to water and mow the front lawn. I had not been inside the house or seen the backyard in years. I admit that I had emotionally, and physically, distanced myself from the 58th Street house and seldom thought of it anymore. 

And So What Now?

With no savings, no credit and a shoestring budget we were stricken by the rent increase. Before this had even happened, my husband mentioned what a shame it was that my parent's property was sitting vacant and brought up the idea of someday us buying it and fixing it up. I was a bit dumbfounded by what he proposed and to be honest I pretty much wrote it off as being impossible. I admit to really missing East Sacramento and would jump at the chance to move back there but the thought of trying to take on such an impossible task made me shut down entirely. When my husband told me our landlady had increased our rent his idea went from the realm of far-off future fantasy to an immediate and urgent quest. It really seems as if we have no other viable options.

Usually I am the one that comes up with the crazy ideas but my husband latched onto this idea with an enthusiasm that shocked and sometimes downright intimidated me. How in the heck could this work? It was a much smaller house than even the downsized one we lived in now. It did have a basement but that flooded every time it rained and there was no garage! It was in terrible dis-repair, so much so that my father forbade us to even go there until he could repair it himself enough to be safe. (My parents are on fixed incomes and could never afford to pay someone to do the work for them.) My husband would not be deterred. Despite my father insisting that -although he favored us buying the property because "family had first priority" - he wanted us to wait saying "we had plenty of time". It was when my husband went back to my father and explained our new urgency that some more safety concerns of the property arose. My father suspected more break-ins and more tampering with the property. In an uncharacteristic show of assertiveness my husband refused to be deterred. He felt that my father insisting that he would clean up the property himself made no sense. My husband proclaimed that we would go down that weekend and start cleaning up the property.
We took pictures and video before we started and what you will see may shock you. There were times this weekend when both my husband and I would stop working and stare about us, open-mouthed, not having a clue what to do next because we were so overwhelmed. That story, complete with videos, will be posted tomorrow. For now I must stop writing, get out of my filthy work clothes, take a shower and get to bed.

Olive tree with garden in background, early 1980's.

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* Update (October 25, 2011) - When we told our landlady we could not afford the rent increase there was not a lot of response at first. Then came a lot of back and forth discussion. It is understandable that when you think you will be getting an increase in income (upped rent) and then you find out you will no longer have tenants it may come as a bit of a surprise. Our landlady already knew we were in financial distress, that is why her announcement of a rent increase came as a shock to us.

We had asked for her kindness in allowing us to stay at the original rent until we moved out January 1st. (Which in reality is only one extra month since her rent increase could only take effect 30 days after initial notice.) There was some additional back and forth on that request and now (several weeks into this) she is making what we think appears to be an offer to keep the rent at the original amount for some indeterminate amount of time.  We appreciate this offer but it unfortunately too little, too late to work for us.

We were already struggling to afford the original rent price so even if it remained the same it was a hardship for us. Now we have made a commitment to my parents (and ourselves!) to rebuild the 58th Street house and get off of the renter roller coaster of rent increases, the inability to do what you want with your home, the slow or complete lack of response by the owner to the needs of the property and so on. We believe that our landlady is a good person that could possibly be in a financial bind herself and perhaps felt forced to increase our rent. We wish her and her home well and we will make sure it is in better shape when we leave it than when we entered.